The Us tab in Tiptoe is where you notice each other's work and each other. It holds three things: a thank-you you can send from Home when your partner finishes something, a quick Thinking of You for when a message feels like too much, and Insights, a chart of completed tasks and chores over the weeks by person, built only from what you both keep in Tiptoe. Insights is part of Pro. There are no scores and no rankings.
Who is this for?
Couples where the work gets done but nobody says so. A wife who handles every school email and never hears about it. A husband who has quietly taken over the cooking and wonders if anyone noticed. A boyfriend and girlfriend who both feel they do more, and neither has a way to see the actual week. Thanks and a clear picture of who handled what change how the same week feels.
What problem does it solve?
Two problems, really.
The first is that household work is mostly invisible when it goes well. The bins went out, the bill got paid, the fridge has food. Nobody thanks anyone for things that did not go wrong, so the person doing them starts to feel taken for granted. A thank-you that takes one tap lowers the bar for saying it.
The second is that couples argue from memory about who does more, and memory is unreliable in both directions. The fix is not keeping score. It is giving each job an owner and letting the record follow from that. A completed task counts for the person it was assigned to, and Insights shows that over the weeks, by person, so you can look at the same picture instead of comparing impressions. The guide on what to do when one partner does more explains the thinking behind this.
How it works, step by step
Step 1. Thank your partner from Home. When they finish something, send a thank-you. Home also shows a count of what the two of you handled today. Thank-yous go to your partner.
Step 2. Send a Thinking of You. For the days when you want to reach out but a full message feels like too much: you are in a meeting, they are at a hard appointment, it has been a long week.
Step 3. Open Insights, if you have Pro. Insights charts completed tasks and chores over the weeks, by person. It uses only what you both keep in Tiptoe. It does not rank you or give either of you a score.
Step 4. Bring what you see to your check-in. If Insights shows one person carried most of the work for a month, that is a topic, not a verdict. Raise it at your weekly check-in and decide whether a chore should change hands.
Three household examples
- The invisible Monday. One partner does the weekly recycling, restocks the bathroom and pays the water bill, all before work. The other sees them done and sends a thank-you. Ten seconds, and the work stops being invisible.
- The long hospital week. One partner is visiting a parent in hospital every evening. The other sends a Thinking of You at 7pm each night, instead of "how is it going?" which needs an answer.
- The "I do everything" argument. Both partners feel they carry the house. With Pro, they look at Insights at their check-in. It shows a lopsided month: one partner took most of the chores while the other was traveling for work. The fix is not blame. It is a handoff of two chores now that the travel is over. The chore split calculator helps if you want to include planning time as well.
What it does not do
- It does not analyze your relationship or give advice. The feature page describes thank-yous, Thinking of You and a chart built from your own completed tasks and chores.
- Insights only knows what you put in Tiptoe. Work that never becomes a task or chore will not show up, so the picture is only as complete as your list. The noticing and planning parts of a job will not show unless they are written into the task.
- It does not score, rank or judge either of you.
- Insights is part of Pro, at $9.99 a month for both partners. Thank-yous are included in the free account.
- It is not therapy and does not promise any outcome for your relationship.
How does it compare to a notes app, Apple Reminders or paper?
A notes app cannot show you who did what over time unless you write it down by hand. A text message is a perfectly good thank-you, and if you already say thanks often, keep doing that.
Apple Reminders shows who a reminder is assigned to on a shared list. As of November 2026, Apple's support page describes assigning and completing reminders, but does not describe a thank-you or a view of completed work by person over time.
Paper is a fine free version. Keep the week's chore list on the fridge with initials. On Sunday, before you throw it out, look at it together and each name one thing the other did. That small habit gets most of the value of this feature. The chore split worksheet can be your weekly sheet.
Tiptoe is the next step when you want the thank-you one tap away and a picture of the weeks that you do not have to rebuild from memory.
How to start this week
Send one specific thank-you a day for a week: name the actual job, not "thanks for everything." At the end of the week, ask your partner which one landed. If the work feels uneven, take the mental load test together before you look at any chart.
Related guides
- What to do when one partner does more
- Mental load for couples
- Weaponized incompetence
- When your partner doesn't help
- What to say to your partner
Questions about insights and thanks
How do I show appreciation to my husband or wife for housework?
Name the specific job and what it saved you: "Thanks for dealing with the insurance call, I didn't have to think about it once." Specific thanks lands better than general praise, and once a day is plenty.
How can I see who does more chores, me or my boyfriend or girlfriend?
Give each chore one owner and track what gets done for a few weeks. Tiptoe's Insights, part of Pro, charts completed tasks and chores over the weeks by person. The free [chore split calculator](/tools/chore-split-calculator/) estimates weekly hours, including planning.
Does Insights show everything we do around the house?
No. Insights uses only what you both keep in Tiptoe, charting completed tasks and chores over the weeks by person. Work that never becomes a task or chore will not appear, and there are no scores or rankings.
Is keeping track of chores the same as keeping score?
No. Keeping score compares effort to win an argument. Tracking by owner records who agreed to hold which job, so you can rebalance when life changes. The aim is a fair split, not a winner.
